Today was a great day. After a previous night of fighting, arguing, and emotional verbal abuse of one another, we finally laid our heads down loving of one another and a promise to never allow our emotions get the better of us. The verbal assaults were coming from both sides and were neither pleasant nor civil. Things were said that could never be taken back and were hurtful. Things to consider during your next argument with your significant other. Careful of what you say, and think before you speak. Physical scars can heal but emotional scars you carry forever.

Could the argument been prevented? Struggling with mental illness, emotional detachment is part of the many symptoms that I struggle with every day. My wife is extremely patient with me and understands that I have no control over how I feel. However, borderline personality disorder makes it nearly impossible to positively communicate with my partner. I emotionally shut down and become a wall and stare off into space. That night, I too verbally lashed out in anger and wish I had controlled myself better. I hate using my mental illnesses as a crutch and the labels that it affords me. Last night was just simply an argument that went horribly wrong.

Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start.

-Nido Qubein