I write todays blog with a heavy heart and am quite vulnerable with the topic. But I feel that it needs to be addressed for my sanity. This weekend has been up and down as the wife and I tried to stay courteous towards one another since we had her son. However, there were times that we got into arguments over this and that, and everything in between. The latest fight happened this afternoon and caused me to ask the question whether or not porn is considered cheating?

The reason I ask this question is somewhat complicated. My wife and I have been rarely intimate over the past year. She is aware that I have turned to porn as she herself has turned to external toys. She has said numerous times that this does not bother her. As she would rather have me watching porn than in the arms of another woman. However, after today I begin to wonder.

The argument we got into was because of pet names that loved ones call each other. I call my wife babe all the time and guess you can say that is my pet name for her. As far as what she calls me, it’s pretty much just Mike. I told her that she could call me Mikey and that’s when things got out of hand. She was mad because my ex-wife engraved a book to me and called me Mikey. I had totally forgotten all about this and didn’t realize my ex had called me Mikey. Since I had no recollection of being called Mikey by my ex, my wife assumed that I was lying and freaked out. Doesn’t seem like much to freak out about, but to her it was a big deal. Since my lying in the past, this triggered just another lie to her. Fast forward about thirty minutes, she grabs my phone and attempts to run off with it but slips and falls. I grab my phone and hers and leave the house to get away from the situation. I had to get away because I was scared of what could happen.

Sitting in my car just down the street from the house I begin to search her phone. I am surprised at what I find. For the past 11 months, I find an email chain of her and another man communicating and sending nudes to one another. In her eyes, this is not considered cheating. She has known this person for seven years and have been friends for some time. He lives in another state and they have no physical connection. They supposedly do not call and speak to one another. It is just communication via email/text. She believes this is no different than me watching porn. Both are fantasies.

Thus the question. Is porn cheating?

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