We are responsible for our actions and sometimes our actions are triggered by others. I’m not saying that it is their fault, just that on occasions actions can be prompted. When this happens both parties carry equal responsibility for actions that transpire.
This past week has had some good and some very bad moments. We recently spent a few days in Texas visiting my wife’s best friend. The trip there ended up being horrible and ended up with the police being called while we were in the middle of nowhere Texas. Both of our actions were unacceptable and caused each of us to act irrational and do things that we later regretted. We were able to stay civil for rest of day and the two days following. We returned on Sunday evening and have ignored the pink elephant in the room. This is obviously not healthy and will soon have to be addressed.
Today’s writing is not necessarily about the actions that happened on our trip to Texas, but rather how our actions have consequences. Sometimes we let anger get the better of us and let our emotions take over. More times than not, this usually ends up badly for all parties involved. That is why I think it is important to remember the acronym HALT. If I can remember this, maybe I can prevent myself from doing things I later regret. Below is the acronym spelled out. It reminds us to not make decisions or take action when we are hungry, angry, feeling lonely, or tired. Applying this to our trip to Texas, my actions occurred after about 6 hours of driving, which would fall under “tired”. It’s possible that it could have been prevented if I were to stop and taken a moment before acting out.
H – Hungry
A – Angry
L – Lonely
T – Tired
I am curious if anyone else’s actions has had damaging effects that they later regretted. What did you do to correct the situation?